Niomí O’Rourke
What’s your full name?
Niomí Eve O’Rourke.
How old are you?
27.
Where were you born/brought up?
I was born in London. I lived in England until I was 12 and then moved to Northern Ireland. When I was 18 I moved back to London to go to university.
What do you do for a living?
I work as a piano teacher, run a label for BAME women called Galang as well as making and releasing my own music.
What’s your ethnicity?
I’m half Pakistani half Irish.
How did your mum and dad meet?
I think they met through mutual friends in London. My Dad fixed my mum’s earring apparently.
Describe your most memorable moments when you were made aware of being mixed race.
I have a memory at school of a friend telling me my blood was black and not red like white people’s.
Do you feel your parents prepared you for life as a mixed race person?
My mum used to read a lot of books by writers of colour which she’d pass on to me and I think she instilled in me from a young age that there was beauty in not being white and other stories that I could engage with that I wouldn’t have been exposed to normally.
What ignorant comments have you heard about being mixed-race that really rile you?
I don’t like the idea people have of mixed race people not being legitimately non white - a ‘coconut’ or ‘Malteaser’. Like brown on the outside and white on the side.
What do you wish people who aren’t mixed-race understood?
I wish people wouldn’t fetishise it. I cringe when I hear people talking about how cute mixed race babies are.
Do you think mixed race people/families are well represented in the media?
Not as much as they could be. I don’t think the specific experience of being mixed race is explored very often.
Is being mixed race a burden or a blessing for you?
Being born without a specific racial identity has been a blessing ultimately. You’re already outside the box or the norm so you apply that to the rest of your life. I think that’s definitely a positive.
Have you felt a struggle with your identity? If so, how did you deal with it and if you are now at peace with who you are, how did you come to a place of self-acceptance?
100% yes. I struggle with the fact that I can’t speak Urdu and that I’ve never visited Pakistan though I’m often visually identified as South Asian. I also struggle with identifying as Irish. I don’t look or sound it, so its as if I don’t have a claim to either culture. I work on coming to peace with this by knowing identity doesn’t live in binaries and actually I don’t have to choose a side.
What advice would you give to your younger self?
Its ok to call out racism and talk about race.